Posts Tagged ‘family’

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Reblogged: Not-So-Retail Therapy

February 24, 2013

This post reblogs a refreshing alternative to conspicuous consumerism, and adds some of our own thoughts triggered by the reblogged post. We should all strive to evaluate our needs and wants more carefully. There is a big difference between the two. Oftentimes what we THINK we need is actually a very strong desire, but doesn’t fit into a “vital” category: food, shelter, safety, water, health.

Speaking for ourselves, we find shopping (for ourselves) to be mostly a chore or obligation, and not one that we would consider “fun” or “relaxing.”

Shopping with someone else, to assist xem in finding things xe needs, is a different story depending on the person. For instance, our sister N needed to find dress shoes to match her dress for the Inauguration Ball (her boyfriend was on Obama’s campaign staff and the Inauguration committee staff also- thats why she was able to go). I (Andrea) and our mom met her in DC and we were out for 4 hours. I was exhausted by the end of it. All for a pair of shoes. But she NEEDED them for the occasion. And I figured since I don’t get to see N much now because we live 6 hours apart, that shopping was a way to spend some sister-time together. I actually insisted that I accompany mom and N on the shopping trip, to their pleasant surprise (they both know I hate malls due to noise and crowds.)

I was certainly thankful to be OUT of the mall when we all finally finished. After that I think we had a nice meal together. Mom and N probably said something about being proud of me for braving the mall for so long. I must have thought to myself “glad to help” and “thank goodness for comfortable ear plugs!”

Shopping for pleasure, to us, is an oxymoron most of the time.

Collaborative, mostly written by Andrea, finished by Ivan in her absence

Adventures in Thanks-Living

Most folks who know me well are aware that I do not take much pleasure in shopping–especially the kind of retail shopping that involves plunking down major cash outlays for transitory and often cheaply made consumer goods. In short, I just about have to be dragged to a shopping mall.

That said, I can understand how shopping can be classed as “retail therapy.” There’s the thrill finding that seemingly perfect item to fill a need, or more likely, a want in a person’s life. I’ve been there and done that and have come to find the outcome severely lacking.

Now I practice “not-so-retail” therapy. Let me explain. As a member of The Compact, I avoid buying new items that contribute to an ever-growing waste stream and violate principles of justice and equity that I hold important.

My latest “not-so-retail” therapy sessions involved Goodwill, Staples, and Dollar Tree. Here’s the…

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Some thoughts on Ending one’s life

December 7, 2012

Don’t worry, readers: we aren’t going anywhere.

TRIGGER WARNING FOR MENTION OF SUICIDE!

SPLAT SPLAT SPLAT!

I just finished reading a post by ama about how a doctor said “you are an incompleter” when talking about failed suicide attempts made by the aforementioned blogger. As if completing suicide were some kind of honor that was better than failing to complete it? What an idiot that doctor was!

Alas, the post I was referring to in the beginning no longer exists. The user took down their blog some time ago. This post was actually started a couple of years ago (at least).

Suicide is one of those things that is best left unfinished (meaning someone finds you before you can do it) Or even better, not started at all. I talked to a friend about this topic a while ago, and said friend may well take issue with this post. We don’t agree on everything, which is perfectly okay with us.

We are of the collective opinion that suicide is very hurtful to family members left behind. ( not that my sisters cannot think for themselves. They came to the same conclusion as I did, by different paths.)

However, we are well aware that not everyone is so fortunate, blessed (for fellow Christians) or whatever word you want to use, to be born into a healthy, functional (no major violence or drug or alcohol problems or major trouble with the law-nothing to do with functioning levels) loving family.

But OUR experience is of being born into a loving family; therefore we are not really qualified to talk about other kinds of family experience in first person narrative as if we are living it. This experience is what has shaped our view of suicide, as a most unfortunate final act. We have no intention, with this post, to disparage anyone who has family experience different than our own, or who happens to view suicide differently than we do.

This post was initially inspired many months ago by reading a post we referenced in the opening sentences.

No one should have the misfortune of being called an incompleter by xyr doctor due to a failed suicide attempt.

The original title for this was “Incompleter My Arse” but when I wrote more it just went in a different direction. Which has been the case for many of our recent posts since they were begun many months ago and possibly by another author(either Athena or Andrea)

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