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Being responsible versus being given a responsibility (or several)

February 18, 2013

What is the difference between being responsible and having responsibilities? To give someone a responsibility does not necessarily mean that the person is now responsible. The word “response” which means “a reaction or reply” to something, is the word I think of when the words responsibility or responsible come to mind. Actually, a friend mentioned this thought to me at a dinner outing last night…we were sitting at Noodles and Company, close to where I live, and we were talking about that briefly over a scrumptious (boy I love that word!) meal of spicy Indonesian peanut saute noodles. A person may have the responsibility of raising a child, but that alone does not a responsible person make. There are countless stories in news, past and present, of young people and celebrities having children without regard to the kinds of RESPONSIBILITIES they would have to face, and when they do not face them properly, they are not RESPONSIBLE.

A responsibility is an obligation bestowed on someone, and “being responsible” is a character trait usually acquired over a certain period of time. The length of time depends of course on environmental factors such as life experience, age, education level (sometimes, not always) and other things. We may explore some of these other things in future posts. People with disabilities can certainly be responsible. That discussion deserves its own post.

Being responsible is learned behavior. NT people learn it by observation and imitating peers. So too can autistic people, but it can take much longer. First do we understand what a responsibility is? Autistic advocates definitely have responsibilities that they take on themselves. Some of us organize protests against Autism Speaks events. Others organize major events such as the ASAN annual gala. Need link to this. Include more examples)
Others give presentations at Autreat, the annual retreat by and for autistic people.

The advocates who participate in these activities have chosen to take on these responsibilities. They are not forced or coerced by others to do these activities. These are real responsibilities though, just like going to work if one has a job, going to school (in my case) or taking care of one’s children. And some autistic people have children too, but that isn’t all that relevant except it is another responsibility that some of us have.

We will have other blog posts upcoming about things related to this: specifically we have plans for a post about the damage parents/family can do to autistic people by calling them “irresponsible” for not doing certain things. If you have something to say about that, or this post, we would love to hear from you!

Collaborative, all of us (finished by Athena)

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Some suggestions for bloggers

February 15, 2013

This post will deal with organization of ideas and maximizing readership by spacing out entries.

Do you sometimes find yourselves able to write several posts at once, and then have periods where ideas float around but nothing concrete comes out, or you can’t put into coherent language what you are thinking? We certainly do. We have come up with a working solution to that, which may be of some help to others. WordPress has a feature which you can use to delay publishing. You can schedule a different day for your posts to be published. The benefits to this will be continued readership when you can’t get ideas into writing immediately. If you publish several posts in one day or even over two or three days, chances are that readers will miss a few of them because the human attention span limits what we can read for comprehension and process and respond to. Spacing out publication increases the number of people who will read your posts, can increase followers, and also “buys you time” to craft more posts from your ideas. Go to the publish icon and just select a day in the future to publish a post, click on update, and the word “publish” will change to “scheduled”. Save the changes and your post will automatically be published on the day you have selected beforehand. Thus your blog won’t have to be “quiet” during the periods in which you are experiencing writers’ block.

Another suggestion: make a draft with a list of your ideas. Write incomplete thoughts and number them. This is good if you start writing but cannot finish a post. When whatever you are working on has more than a paragraph or two of material, cut and paste it into its own separate draft, so that your ideas list isn’t insanely cluttered with words from many different unfinished, undeveloped posts. This has helped us immensely. You don’t need to do this for every unfinished post; if you already have a title in mind and a decent amount of writing ready to come out, just start a separate draft.

One caveat: you may find that you need to renumber the ideas if you are like us and want things to stay in sequential order. We are picky about putting new ideas down the list in order. If you aren’t worried about that, you can take a shortcut and just keep listing ideas as you come up with them, not being concerned with numbering.

Sometimes looking at the search terms people have used to get to your blog, can be a great way to come up with new ideas! Maybe you haven’t written anything specifically about squirrels for example, but you notice that one of the search term expressions has to do with squirrels.
You can then write something, anything, related to squirrels. Maybe you remember a particularly fat squirrel you saw at school a few years ago. Interesting thing to write about if your blog is more “casual” (not for a professional job) or a personal blog.

I may have a follow up to this post….about more blogging ideas.

Collaborative
Athena, Ivan, and Andrea

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Mental Health 2013

November 21, 2012

I found this while perusing through posts in various tags we follow. This is a brilliant idea, and I think autistic advocates should have a theme for next year too! A theme for blogging buttons, not just for topics.

How about tackling one theme topic each week too? We can recycle topics also. And then at the end we could have a “blogthology” like Loud Hands has their anthology of stuff written by autistic people. Which unfortunately we didn’t know about until it was too late to submit something. That’s okay, I am sure there will be more opportunities to submit our stuff.
We are looking for feedback on this idea.
Andrea

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From Kittymama-Spread the word to End the Word(s)

November 2, 2012

More on the issue of using words to hurt people, this time from a slightly different cultural perspective. It says pretty much the same thing. Definitely a good read and well worth sharing!

Thanks to my headmate-sister for finding this. However, autistics are not all unable to lie. They can fall victim to corruption too. Maybe not to the extent of elected officials (but could that also be partly because few if any elected officials are known to be autistic?) yes we are capable of BEING corrupted! It happens all the damn time! But not in the conventional sense. Whenever we are told we can’t do this or that because of our disabilities, we are being corrupted, if we end up BELIEVING those lies. That will be the subject of another post, eventually.

Sorry to Athena for hijacking her reblog. She asked me to finish it for her.

Athena and Ivan

Okasaneko Chronicles

In 2009, at the height of the campaign for the Philippine Presidential Elections, the word that critics used to disparage then-senator-turned-presidential aspirant Benigno Aquino III was “autistic.” You see, Filipinos don’t like using the R word as much as the A word. Call it a cultural difference, but here in the Pearl of the Orient Sea, we like to insult people with the A word.

As a result, I wrote “To Senator Noynoy (An Open Letter to Senator Noynoy Aquino from a Mother of an Autistic Child)” in 2009. This was my answer to the people who liked to abuse the word “autistic’ and I quote:

If being autistic means not being able to lie, then by all means, I should be proud to say I am autistic.

If being autistic means not being able to cheat and rig elections, then call me autistic.

It being autistic means not…

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Reblogged: An Open Letter to Ann Coulter

October 24, 2012

More on the response to Ann Coulter’s insensitive tweet! This letter is amazing! I wouldn’t have been able to write something like this completely devoid of anger and harshness. Whether Ann Coulter understands this letter and takes it seriously doesn’t matter one bit. What is FAR MORE IMPORTANT is that many people are speaking out and responding to these kinds of letters from people who write them. People are talking about this issue and taking a stand. That’s how we can effect change.

Bravo, John!

Andrea

The World of Special Olympics

The following is a guest post in the form of an open letter from Special Olympics athlete and global messenger John Franklin Stephens to Ann Coulter after this tweet during last night’s Presidential debate.

Dear Ann Coulter,

Come on Ms. Coulter, you aren’t dumb and you aren’t shallow.  So why are you continually using a word like the R-word as an insult?

I’m a 30 year old man with Down syndrome who has struggled with the public’s perception that an intellectual disability means that I am dumb and shallow.  I am not either of those things, but I do process information more slowly than the rest of you.  In fact it has taken me all day to figure out how to respond to your use of the R-word last night.

I thought first of asking whether you meant to describe the President as someone who was bullied as a child…

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Dealing Effectively with Annoying Sales Calls

October 23, 2012

This post is about how to effectively deal with annoying sales calls, besides simply hanging up on the person, if he or she is especially intrusive:a) monologue about a really esoteric fixation of yours, rattle off advertisements or strings of memorized information that can be totally irrelevant to the subject of the call (in Congress, at least in the Senate, such conduct is known as filibustering, and it is mainly used to kill time and try to kill a bill). The more distant the information from the auditory-assaulting (changed wording on advice of a reader) session (the sales call), the better. This post was inspired by an article in the Herald Tribune (I can’t remember which one, I came up with this idea over a year ago) The author of the article said that he kept getting spam emails from Trump University about courses and stuff. The chairman of said university, Donald Trump, is a pompous asshole who is also full of shit, in my humble opinion.

If you are an autistic adult living independently and get annoying sales calls, your special interests could come in very handy. You could talk someone’s ear off about the very specific technical details of your particular special interest. Of course, this will only really work if you either don’t have overwhelming telephone anxiety in the first place, or else you are able to get through phone anxiety enough to talk about your special interest. The simple and boring solution would be to just hang up on the person. But that’s not very interesting! Many autistic people like to find ways to make things interesting in their own ways, even while we often insist on keeping specific routines that may seem anything BUT interesting to outside observers.

Wow. This went in a different direction than whoever started writing this had in mind. That happens sometimes. And it’s not a bad thing.

Non-autistic people who get annoying sales calls (happens all the time) perhaps read something from a cookbook if you’re into cooking, or from a book you’re reading, talk about your kids or pets or other family members (be careful not to give identifying personal information of course)

Ivan.

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Ann Coulter, The Disability Community is Coming after you!

October 23, 2012

Damn. I had almost an entire post written, and then My ipod decides to crash without saving it! This woman is able to spread her filth because the rest of us except her listeners don’t give a fuck. Well, if we want to send a message loud and clear not only to her but more importantly TO THE REST OF SOCIETY that this kind of crap will no longer go unchallenged, ITS TIME TO START GIVING A FUCK!!!!!!!! Get on social media, write letters to her sponsors, write to newspapers! LET US BLANKET THE NATION WITH OUR OUTRAGE!

Its more than just some dumb woman spewing hate. She is showing her hatred for an entire group of people (nothing new there) but let us make the result much different! Silence no more!

Athena

This Side of Typical

Or, like I like to refer to you, Cunty McCunterson.

Wow.  just…wow.  You know, I “get” that you get your attention by using shock value.  I understand that every fucking thing you say really has no meaning, or weight, or substance.  I get that you are just some lonely woman who needs the attention, good or bad.  Usually bad. I get that.  And I would give you a patronizing pat on the head any day of the week for that.

But really?

*sigh*  after last night’s debate, you did it.  AGAIN.  

And now no doubt you will trot out a little dog and pony show telling the world you should have used a different word.

Well, I’m going to stand by mine.  Cunt.

First off, it was the most OBVIOUS play to distract from Romney’s obvious loss with your stupid words.

But the second, and most important point.  By…

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