Reflecting on the negatives at the most inopportune timesOctober 13, 2012
How many people reading have ever been really upset about something or other, and then suddenly remembered all of the stupid, embarrassing, or upsetting things that they ever said or did, or had others say or do to them?
Funny how that tends to happen, at least to us, when we’re already down or anxious.
ETA: it’s not really all that surprising to us. When we are in a negative thought pattern, it attracts more negative thoughts, like recalling all the stupid things we have ever said or done.
Which can make the negative thought spiral feed on itself and get worse and worse. Which can in turn affect one’s outward disposition, in ways that other people may pick up on. This may lead to less productivity at work or in school; which would be reasons for others to pick up on it. Those others may comment on it, which could lead to even more worsening of the cycle, because the last thing many of us need or want to hear when we are already feeling/thinking poorly about ourselves, is others’ criticism.
Andrea chiming in- what Ivan wrote is indeed a complete thought, but I wonder if this sort of thing is “worse” for young adults with disabilities, than the general population. This happens to everyone at some point after all.